diff --git a/packages/backend/src/core/activitypub/ApInboxService.ts b/packages/backend/src/core/activitypub/ApInboxService.ts
index 21c7adf7b269..e88f60b8062c 100644
--- a/packages/backend/src/core/activitypub/ApInboxService.ts
+++ b/packages/backend/src/core/activitypub/ApInboxService.ts
@@ -507,19 +507,12 @@ export class ApInboxService {
 			return `skip: delete actor ${actor.uri} !== ${uri}`;
 		}
 
-		const user = await this.usersRepository.findOneBy({ id: actor.id });
-		if (user == null) {
-			return 'skip: actor not found';
-		} else if (user.isDeleted) {
-			return 'skip: already deleted';
+		if (!(await this.usersRepository.update({ id: actor.id, isDeleted: false }, { isDeleted: true })).affected) {
+			return 'skip: already deleted or actor not found';
 		}
 
 		const job = await this.queueService.createDeleteAccountJob(actor);
 
-		await this.usersRepository.update(actor.id, {
-			isDeleted: true,
-		});
-
 		this.globalEventService.publishInternalEvent('remoteUserUpdated', { id: actor.id });
 
 		return `ok: queued ${job.name} ${job.id}`;
diff --git a/packages/backend/src/core/activitypub/models/ApPersonService.ts b/packages/backend/src/core/activitypub/models/ApPersonService.ts
index 6019906add8e..879f1922cafe 100644
--- a/packages/backend/src/core/activitypub/models/ApPersonService.ts
+++ b/packages/backend/src/core/activitypub/models/ApPersonService.ts
@@ -594,7 +594,9 @@ export class ApPersonService implements OnModuleInit {
 		if (moving) updates.movedAt = new Date();
 
 		// Update user
-		await this.usersRepository.update(exist.id, updates);
+		if (!(await this.usersRepository.update({ id: exist.id, isDeleted: false }, updates)).affected) {
+			return 'skip';
+		}
 
 		if (person.publicKey) {
 			await this.userPublickeysRepository.update({ userId: exist.id }, {
@@ -699,7 +701,7 @@ export class ApPersonService implements OnModuleInit {
 
 	@bindThis
 	public async updateFeatured(userId: MiUser['id'], resolver?: Resolver): Promise<void> {
-		const user = await this.usersRepository.findOneByOrFail({ id: userId });
+		const user = await this.usersRepository.findOneByOrFail({ id: userId, isDeleted: false });
 		if (!this.userEntityService.isRemoteUser(user)) return;
 		if (!user.featured) return;